Bodily autonomy and parenting wars

I have found it!  The new thing du jour! 

You cannot cut your child's hair because of bodily autonomy. 

It's the new parenting war. 

Did you know that unless you are letting your kids hair grow long and knotty and ratty, you are not respecting their bodily autonomy. 

I just can't even with that shit. 

Look, I am all for giving my child the ability to say no.  The autonomy to make big decisions about her body. 

When she is old enough.

Part of being a parent is taking care of your child.  That looks different for every parent, based on the ability they have to do such things, but it also includes some very basic things.

Bathing and hair care are very basic things. 

And it doesn't go against your child's bodily autonomy to take care of them.  I promise.  They aren't going to be more apt to let themselves be raped or taken advantage of because you trimmed their hair as a 10 month old. 

That thinking is victim blaming bullshit and it's not okay. 

So please, stop creating wars out of nothing.  There doesn't need to be a superior attitude behind not cutting your kid's hair.  It's not that big of a deal.  It doesn't create a better kid.  It just creates a kid with long hair.